CX, as is her way, very kindly listened and remarked that she hoped it was still possible to tell the "real" thing, i.e. when somebody was being genuine about a compliment.
I won't lie : there was a degree of discomfort upon hearing this, but at the time it seemed too much of a puzzle for articulation, and anyway it was after seven in the evening and we were lost trying to find the Odeon in Surrey Quays. But now it seems the thought was bothersome because there is, or at least there should be, no motivating force in finding a compliment - well - complimentary. In other words, the only reason we should want to be able to "tell" when a compliment is genuine is because there is some need to feel good about ourselves, or to be able to judge a person's character through words. Personally, if by subconscious spontaneity I come to judge any compliment, however kindly, to be "sincere" and become as a result "thrilled", my only hope is that I'll be cognizant enough to offer it up to God and let Him take away the upshot of an Inception-class brain orgy.
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